For many, spirituality as union with God is a new insight. . . . Current spirituality, having asserted its independence from God’s vision for the world, is expressed more as “a journey into self” than “a journey into God.” Nevertheless, union with God does have to do with self, not as in the narcissistic self but as the challenge to be the new self—re-created to be all that God intends us to be in our restored nature and new state of being. For when God lives in us and we in him, we lose ourselves through a surrender of ourselves to the purposes of God. We become transformed selves.
-Robert Webber, The Divine Embrace: Recovering the Passionate Spiritual Life (Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 2006), 18-19.